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Why failure is important in success so long as you learn from your mistakes

It has been said many times by many different people that in order to succeed - we must fail and we must fail on a regular basis. After all, without failure and without the learning that comes from each failure we don't grow, we don't change, we don't adapt.Yes we can learn from success - but the lessons tend to be a bit more memorable when we fail, and fail on a regular basis don't you think? 

 Of course there are those people who never learn from their mistakes and keep on doing things in the same way and wonder why they get exactly the same response. But we're not those kinds of people any more. 

And then there are those other kinds of people who get completely off course, one tiny decision at a time. Take weight gain as a good example. You don't decide that one day you are going to eat so much food in one sitting you are going to gain 30 pounds from it. Not only is it impossible - it's IMPOSSIBLE. But you can get 30lbs over weight by eating a little more than your body needs at every meal time and not do enough exercise / physical activity to burn it off. It may take 30 days - but it's more likely to take 3-6 months. It may not seem like very much at the time. You order dessert every day when you know you shouldn't eat it. You have a second pint of beer after work with your mates instead of going home and hitting the treadmill - well you had a hard day and .... any excuse is a good one, if you need one. 

And take those points above for any of your goals - you know you should, but you don't "feel" like doing any work on them today. You're "tired", you've got too much to do....yada yada yada. 

So, how can you learn from your mistakes and move forwards?

Well, first of all accept that mistakes are going to happen. You are going to go off course. The first learning comes when you accept and acknowledge those facts and decide then to make better decisions next time.

The second way to understand this concept is as a car journey. You don't just get into a car and go from point a to point b without making any adjustments to the steering wheel, changing gear of moving around other people who are slower than you, who are in your way. 

  • What have you failed at recently?
  • What are your repeated failures?
  • Why do you think that is?

Answering these questions - can give you the new learning, understanding and acceptance to move forwards and realise and overcome your blocks and problems once and for all.